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Stephen Bradford Long

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This is sacred tension, the podcast about the discipline of asking questions. My name is Steven Bradford Long, and we are here on the rock candy Podcast Network. For more shows like this one, go to rock candy recordings.com You can find the full transcript of this mini episode at Steven Bradford long.com. At this point, we all know that social media is making us unwell. We know it is jeopardizing mental health, democracy, social progress, and our collective ability to focus. I've spent an inordinate amount of time discussing these trends on my blog, but not as much time discussing solutions. So what can we do about it? A clarification. When I say social media in this episode, I am referring to the three primary platforms Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. I am not referring to social media as a whole, just social media that wrecks our brain. Unfortunately, there is a ceiling to what individuals can do to affect systemic change. The ultimate responsibility for the harm caused by social media lies with the corporation's themselves, not the individuals using their platform. But there are things we can do on and off the platforms to resist the distorting godlike power of the social media companies despite their awesome power. We can't just roll over and let the technocratic Demi urges win. I have enacted several rules for myself while engaging social media, and you're welcome to adopt them. This episode uses you language for the sake of style. But keep in mind that these are my rules. This episode might come off as uncharacteristically direct. And if you find yourself wincing at my words, remember that I'm speaking mostly to myself. You can modify them, adopt them or discard them altogether. Rule number one, get social media off your phone and protect it with a complicated handwritten password. This is the rule that has single handedly transformed my life. I am a raging social media addict. And all the typical advice for curbing compulsive social media use just doesn't work on me. Set blocker apps on my phone so I won't be distracted by social media. I will just disable the blocker and settings and then go on a binder. Take the Twitter app off my phone completely. I will just access it on the phone browser or on my laptop when I should be working. set time limits for social media use fuck time limits, I will happily sit in my office and refresh Twitter for four hours straight. No, really. If you find yourself being a hardcore addict like me, here's what you will do. Go to an online password generator and create a long complicated password. Write that down on a piece of paper. Change your social media password to this long one, and do not store it digitally. Keep this piece of paper and your desk at home hat tip to Cal Newport for giving me this idea. Whenever you want to go on social media, you must sit down and copy this long, laborious password to login. You will only do this when you really need to or want to. Now you can start to enact healthy rules for social media use. If social media is obvious, easy and always just within reach, you will waste your life Life is made up of tiny moments towards which we can be present or not. A single moment of compulsively reaching for Twitter instead of a book a friend, a partner, or our own interior thoughts is insignificant on its own. A lifetime of 1000s upon 1000s of moments given to social media is a dimmed destitute life. I naturally start falling down this road if I don't set hard boundaries with social media. And I suspect you do too. Rule number two, if you find yourself needing to block people often, you're spending too much time on social media. This one comes with a massive caveat. The internet is full of disgusting people who should be blocked, minorities and women are far more likely to suffer abuse and they need to protect themselves. The guy who told me I should commit suicide because I'm gay got blocked, virulent trans folks who say demeaning, violent or hurtful things against trans people in my community get blocked. If you're a minority, take my words in this section with a gigantic grain of salt under no circumstances do I want you to jeopardize your well being If however you find yourself handing out blocks like candy because the line between disagreement and harassment is emotionally indistinguishable. You You're spending too much time online. This doesn't mean your hurt isn't genuine or that you're a weak broken person. Instead, it means that you are being isolated, hacked and studied by the algorithms and pushed into your own hellish tiny pan Opticon the hurt you feel will continue to intensify and blocking won't do anything to reduce your pain only logging out and refusing to be a psychic lab rat will improve your quality of life blocking is a toy given to us by the tech gods to give us just enough control to keep us logged in. Even if our mental health is deteriorating. Everyone must determine the line between disagreement and harassment for themselves. someone telling me I'm a faggot who should kill myself as a harasser and gets blocked someone telling me they strongly disagree with my views on abortion, gay marriage or capitalism is not to me a bully someone voicing their sincerely held belief that I am wrong about something is not harassment for you. Given your personal history, it might be only you can decide. The key is this Do you find yourself regularly getting upset and raged or depressed on social media? Do you find yourself trying to mitigate these feelings by blocking regularly, that's a sign that you are too deep into the laboratory and that the best thing you can do for your mental health is log out. There is also the fact that blocking has been weaponized. If you block someone for voicing a disagreement, they will screenshot the block and do a victory lap all over the internet. I prefer not to give them the satisfaction. Rule number three. If you're spending more time on social media than on long form media, your mind is in jeopardy. If you find yourself spending more time on social media than on long form media like books, articles, films and podcasts you will find yourself in the same position of doctoral student Phillip Davis and Nicholas Carr's book The Shallows, quote, I read a lot, or at least I should be reading a lot only I don't I skim a scroll. I have very little patience for long drawn out nuanced arguments, even though I accuse others of painting the world to simply end quote, when we lose the capacity to engage in long form focus. All the best things in life pass us by enriching relationships satisfying careers diverting hobbies deep thought and even the formation of identity require long form focus. If we let the muscle of focus atrophy through the endless onslaught of bite sized information, we put our minds and well being and peril car pauses on one particular description of reading that I find incredibly moving, especially in our age of constant distraction. Quote, even the earliest silent readers recognized the striking change in their consciousness that took place as they immersed themselves in the pages of a book The medieval Bishop Isaac of Syria described how whenever he read to himself as in a dream, I enter a state when the sense of thoughts are concentrated. Then when the prolonging of this silence and turmoil of memories is stilled in my heart, ceaseless waves of joy are sent me by inner thoughts beyond expectations suddenly arising to delight my heart reading a book was a meditative act, but it didn't involve a clearing of the mind involved. A filling, or replenishing of the mind reader has disengaged their attention from the outward flow of passing stimuli, in order to engage it more deeply with an inward flow of words, ideas and emotions that was and is the essence of the unique mental process of deep reading. It was the technology of the book that made this strange anomaly in our psychological history possible. The brain of a book reader was more than a literate brain. It was a literary brain, and quote, you rob yourself of this deep, abundant joy when you spend more time with social media than long form media. Use a timer to track how much time you spend on social media versus time engaged with books, film, articles, podcasts, and other immersive activities. If the scale tips towards social media, you are being robbed. Rule number four, hot takes and substantive conversation don't belong on social media. Too often Icy Hot takes clarifications and attempts at substantive conversation taking place on social media. I cannot imagine a more denigrating context for such important conversation. The disaster is multi layered, using social media as an outlet for in poor Conversation is submitting your thoughts to the distorting outraging cycles of the algorithms. Whatever you mean to say will be distorted, and an opportunity for collective growth will likely turn into all out war. It also robs you of the opportunity to write or speak clearly, and therefore sharpening your own mind. Because true depth and clarity is impossible on social media. I will never be talked down from this soapbox to quote the Elements of Style by Strunk and White. Quote, As you become proficient in the use of language, your style will emerge because you yourself will emerge. And when this happens, you will find it increasingly easy to break through the barriers that separate you from other minds other hearts, which is of course, the purpose of writing, as well as its principal reward. Fortunately, the act of composition or creation disciplines the mind. Writing is one way to go about thinking and the practice and habit of writing. Not only drain the mind, but supply it to and, quote, social media stunts, the almost magical process of organizing your mind through a creative act if you have something important, meaningful, controversial or beautiful to say that deserves serious engagement. Don't say it on social media, no matter how much attention it might get or how good it might feel. Instead, write it, blog it or record it as a podcast or video. If you must tweet that instead, don't squander your thoughts on social media. Rule number five, redirect yourself and others to healthier forms of online connection. I love the internet, probably because it saved my life. When I was coming out of the closet in my late teens, discovering the LGBT community online rescued me from the horrifying loneliness of being gay in the conservative world. I met friends in those early days who are still in my life. Now I am part of a flourishing online community on Discord servers, private websites and chat threats. I'm not opposed to social media, just social media that destroys us redirect your focus from toxic social media like Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, and towards healthier online communities. Discord servers, chat threads, watch parties, video rooms, and blogs aren't perfect, but they are better. Connecting on the internet is a beautiful thing. And we don't have to give it up just because the biggest platforms are monsters, but that's just me. What do you think? I love hearing back from my audience, and you can share your thoughts on this episode at Steven Bradford long.com or on my Discord server, which you can find in the show notes. As always, Hail Satan. And thanks for listening